Approaching women with confidence -- easy, or hard? I know a lot of guys who have studied the art of seduction for a while, but just can't seem to crack open that nut.
When it comes to success with women, it doesn't matter how many techniques, smooth moves, or sexual positions you know about if you can't get down the most important part of all: the approach.
The 3 second rule is a term that was coined long ago by pick up artist "Mystery" (of the VH1 show The Pick Up Artist fame). The 3 second rule, which I recommend all aspiring pick up artists live and die by, dictates that when you see a beautiful woman or just a woman that you are interested in for any reason whatsoever, you must approach her within 3 seconds.
If you have trouble approaching women with confidence, or if you hesitate until it is too late to even approach her or you talk yourself out of it, then you above all else need to make this rule absolute.
What does the 3 second rule accomplish, and how can it help you to approach women with confidence?
The 3 second rule accomplishes a few things when it comes to approaching a woman. First of all, we all know that women love a confident man, right? You probably wouldn't be reading this article if you didn't already know that.
What impression do you think you give a woman when you fearlessly approach her without hesitation? No matter WHAT you say to her, she will interpret it in the context that she is talking to a secure, confident man who MUST have something to offer (why else would he have the guts to approach her immediately)?
This is something that sets you apart INSTANTLY. First impressions really are everthing. How many guys do you think have the guts to do something like this? Not very many. In fact, 95% of you reading this will never put it into action. What a shame. You guys can keep dating the hogs... more beautiful women for me and the other 5%!
The truth is that women secretly CRAVE a man that has the guts to approach them with confidet. Yet the average man falls short of her expectations each and every time.
But that's only scratching the surface of what the 3 second rule accomplishes...
What's REALLY great about the 3 second rule is what it does internally, in your own head.
Think about it. What usually happens when you see a woman you like?
If you're anything like most guys, your intrigue is usually followed by an inner dialogue that eventually talks you out of actually approaching her.
"Hmm.. what to say to her?"
"Actually, she looks a little busy. Maybe I shouldn't approach her..."
"But damn, she looks sexy! I would love to get to know a woman like that!"
"Actually, she probably has a boyfriend..."
"But there's only one way to find out!"
"Wait... she already saw me standing here talking to myself while I got the guts to approach her. She's going to think I'm a loser!"
"Oh well... you only live once, right? Let's go for it!"
"NO! She already left! ARGH! I'm too late!"
"I'll do it next time."
You know what? I happen to be a professional procratinator. And "next time" NEVER comes!
The secret to overcoming fear of rejection and learning to approach women with confidence isn't a list of pick up lines and openers, preparation, happy thoughts, or any of those things.
It's ACTION.
That's why the 3 second rule is so important for approaching women. You see, even if you do end up getting the guts to approach a woman after the inner dialogue in your head and thinking what to say...
Not only did she notice your hesitation and subsconciously label you as a lamer or a weirdo...
Not only do you risk talking yourself out of actually approaching this gorgeous hottie and changing your life...
If by some stroke of chance you DO get up the guts to go and approach her before its too late, you will have made yourself so nervous that you will fumble completely!
And that's the MAIN reason why the 3 second rule is so important. When you approach women fast, you outpace your own brain. You don't have the time to be nervous.
Sure, you will fail pretty hard... initially. But you know what? When you don't build up the approach and make a big deal out of it, you tend to just laugh off your failures instead of letting them torture you all night long.
More importantly, with experience comes confidence. Experience is ALL you need to get confident in approaching women. PERIOD.
You know why? Because after approaching women for a while, you'll start to realize that women really AREN'T out to get you. You'll start to have some good experiences and good approaches, which will lead to more good experiences and good approaches because your confidence becomes a self perpetuating entity!
That's not to say that a good opening routine can't help you out. Actually, I think practicing good opening techniques and routines when approaching women is a short cut. Master a few good openers, and you can start having success with approaching women a lot sooner.
If you feel like you have the guts to put the 3 second rule into action and just need to know what to say when you approach women, then I highly recommend this book: The Art of Approaching by Joseph Matthews. (link opens in a new window)
Even if you don't like to read, it doesn't read so much like a book. Instead, it contains literal blueprints you can follow to have success approaching women. If you just follow the advice outlined in that guide, I don't see how you can fail to get at least a few numbers, dates, or "casual encounters" per week.
I've given you the tools you need to succeed. Now there are no more secrets, and no more excuses. Whether you improve your success wtih women or not is up to you and the actions you take!
To YOUR Dating Success,
